Can I have a sing Newport??

Everyone knows its February. Before the month is over I feel I must write about Black love. [Its black history month and national heart month....duhh!] Well anyway our president is black and so is his wife, their love is ultimately beautiful. But....that is not the case for most black people especially young black people. We seem to have gotten caught up in this whole "you do you, imma do me," era and we forgot the concept of really being with someone. Most of us settle for casual sex to feed our needs at the moment. The young men don't want to settle down so the girls act like its nothing, they just want to smoke the ciggz and not buy the whole carton. No matter what a girl may say....every girl wants to buy the whole carton!! I just believe its sad that a young educated black woman may have to wait until she is ready to get her groove back to be with an educated black man. Then the question comes about when did we become so superficial and cynical that we are willing to keep having these casual relationships (smoke outs) because it seems to be cool? This is not cool, not by a long shot. Hopefully we as people will want to get married, but I do not want to marry a man who has more notches in his belt than earthquake. Can you say eww disgusting??? And hopefully he wouldn't want to do the same. I want to settle down with a black man, an educated black man, one who knocks my socks off. Hopefully while he is knocking my socks off he's not knocking socks off of everyone I ever came in contact with. I guess I am trying to say we need to get the love back black people and stop with all the unattachment. Get attached.