definition!

I always have this period of time when I am inspired to write. That doesn't really have anything to do with what I am writing about, but I felt the needed to say it... so I did. Anyway back to the matter at hand. Everything in this world is defined but something or someone. We are defined by our parents, our friends, where we are from, our features, etc. (well you get the point). If the world is not labeling us we tend to label ourselves by what we are doing, what we want to do, or our interest. What if there was no definition? What if people could just be? What if I could disregard the fact that I'm 19, I'm a girl, I'm in college, and I am planning to have a great future? Granted these things will still be the generalizations that make up who I am but what if people didn't expect certain things from me because of these definitions? For example, when people ask me questions, such as, what do you want to do after you graduate? and I respond with some type of career in the fashion industry. I may not really feel like I want to do that (because I really don't), I want to own my own businesses. but I say I want to be a stylist or a buyer because its a definite answer and it gives others security. We find satisfaction in knowing other people are secure in us. That is really the whole purpose of definition, its to give others security, while we are secretly insecure in everything that defines us. I know its a lot to take in and completely understand, but think about it. Are you really you because of the things you know about yourself or because of what others define you as? When others tell you your pretty/handsome, did you already know that or did them telling you make you believe it? How many of us are waiting on other to define us??